…well not really, all the time, but I thought it was the perfect Whitney Houston song to use as the title for today’s blog. 2015 is not a year that I am going to have many fond thoughts of, in fact, in the words of my home girl Queen Elizabeth (Her Majesty to you), this is fast becoming a year I shall not look fondly upon. It has turned out to be an annus horribilis. For those of you who think that I’m referring to someone more cheeky, annus means year in Latin.
A lot has happened over a very short period of time, and I’ve seen the best and worst of people. The one thing that I have discovered in all of this, is how important it has been to use my emotions productively. This is something that Deepak Chopra talks about in his latest 21 Day Meditation Experience and you know I like to remind you that Dr. Oz highly recommends meditation to alleviate stress among other health benefits. I still suck at it, but why quit trying?
In my favourite meditation to date, Deeps talks about what you should do in a time of difficulty. I love that he says that being emotionally productive isn’t about “positive thinking as a solution or constantly trying to maintain an optimistic disposition.” Rather, he wants us to make our emotions part of our support group. How can we do this?
- Be aware that emotions are tied to every choice that you make and you can’t always be rational. I like being rational, but yes, I would say that in the scheme of things, emotions rule the day
- Deal with emotions as a contestant companion and advisors. In other words, don’t try to suppress how you feel – many decisions, good and bad, are made based on feelings and it doesn’t help to try to bury your emotions. The one thing I have to say is that good or bad, I get everything out. If I need to cry, which isn’t often, I do it. If I’m angry, depending on how much something is bothering me, I tell the person. If I’m happy or grateful, I say so. Life is far too short to choke down feelings and I’ve noticed, at least for me, that there is something very therapeutic about getting things out into the open…and a good cry never hurts. Deepak says that it is important to remember that every situation has an emotional component
- “Pushing down emotions” or try to stifle emotions, they get “stuck” meaning, they just sit in your subconscious like a ginormous unhealthy dinner gets stuck in your tummy
There were a few other deep thoughts, but this was the gist of it. I loved that he didn’t stress positive thinking or fake optimism as a solution. I hate when people tell me to look at the bright side or that things happen for a reason. I think I’ve written about this before, but I think that sometimes bad things happen to the best people and sometimes, you see karma in action. I’m seeing both of these situations at once – but coping with each is less difficult, because I know exactly how I feel and today, that is what I most grateful for.