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This meditation was all about basking in your glory. I often lie on my “what will become of me couch”, mirror in hand and look at my reflection with a muted “Hello Gorgeous” coming from my lips. It’s so hard being perfect. Actually that’s another meditation experience, I got a little confused. It happens when I get side tracked by a mirror. Damn you Dr. Oz, your “You Being Beautiful” book made me so lovely, that I can’t even concentrate. I don’t think my ridiculousness is what Oprah and Deepak had in mind for this experience. I’ll get back to be serious.
Oprah starts off with a lovely quote from her favourite poet. I too. have a favourite poet – his name is Simon Le Bon from Duran Duran and if you think that their music isn’t poetry – keep this in mind – some of the lyrics rhyme! Well, here is what you doubters get to hear from the Divine Ms. O’s library, ” Playing small doesn’t save the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. As we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence liberates others. Now is our time to give voice to our truths, our creativity and our unique purpose.” How inspiring is that? This makes up for a very few disappointing days where I didn’t relate to the topic or the meditation. Thank you Oprah – this was one of the defining moments for me. Basically, if you really need this translated, never be less than you are to please other people. Don’t play dumb – being smart can inspire others. This isn’t all that I got out of this quote, but part of this process is having your own thoughts and feelings about what you have learned.
Deepak had a hard act to follow today, but he didn’t disappoint me either. I always knew, by the play of jingly wind chimes when he was about to come on. He reminded the avid listeners, like me, that your being is the greatest gift that you have to give. Just remember that at birthdays or the holidays – no more presents to buy – EVER! This is when he gets into basking in your glory: “Being is silent, but when you express who you are, your being flows out into the world, then others can bask in your personal expression and feel inspired to find their own way of expressing themselves.” OK – I get it – you are supposed to inspire others, kind of like those chain emails that we get from time to time that we are supposed to pass along to others or suffer x days of bad luck. The biggest difference is that we are supposed to gain inspiration too. Isn’t it nice when things are not abstract?
Here is a warning to parents out there – everything that you say to your children stays with them good and bad. If you tell one child that they are perfect and wonderful, they will believe it but if you tell another child that they are problem or a source of worry or even that they will never measure up, that will stay with them too. I had a nice balance when I was growing up – my mother always told me that I was as good as gold (except when I wasn’t), but sometimes, there isn’t a trickle down effect to each of your parents. I had some self-esteem issues that at one point, I can’t continue to blame my father for, but I can tell you from experience that words sting. I always try to be sensitive to children, particularly, my own adult niece and nephew, so that they know, even when they are having a bad day, that they have a big fan in me. No one is perfect, and we are all guilty of being a word that rhymes with witchy from time to time, but this was a nice reminder that kindness helps and heals. I know that DC is right that when he says after hearing certain things your whole life, that when you finally discover who you really are (sorry if you are in your 20’s, you won’t know it until your 30’s or even 40’s) that it may come as a shock.
Deepak believes that a shock can come from the idea that their true self is wise, creative, loving and universal may sound unbelievable but it’s true for many of us, except for the odd jerk – hello kids at a York Region high school that beat up a classmate because he happens to be a different colour. SHAME ON YOU for being bullies. Anyone who is racist, sexist, homophobic or just plain mean, I can’t hold out a lot of hope for. People can be redeemed, I’m sure of that, but you have to really want to be. Going back to the great man himself, he states that to be human is a statement of potential to be awakened mainly because no one can be who you are. Self-expression is as important as breathing and it happens when we don’t judge or restrict this flow of the self. Basically, love yourself and be who you are and be kind to yourself so that you can be kind to others.
He would like us to encourage others to be themselves and do this by thinking of a time when you wanted to say something, but your inside voice said that you would sound silly or that no one wants to hear what you have to say. This is the voice of self-judgment. DC doesn’t want us to be held back by our own issues and we can do this when self-expression comes more easily. it can also come when we encourage someone else to speak and express themselves. You are giving that person a gift and as you give, you will receive. This meditation was one of my favourites and I was struck by the truth in what both Oprah Winfrey and Deepak Chopra said.
Today, I am grateful that I got the chance to review this meditation again, since it was so profound. I am also grateful that I get to see one of my former interviewees for this blog, and a favourite cousin tonight – I’m really looking forward to seeing her (and you too AK)!