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Today’s (I’m 3 days behind – just a reminder) meditation was very much in the vein of the Whitney Houston song “The Greatest Love of All.” In that song, Whitney croons that “…learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all”. It felt like today’s meditation was inspired by that very lyric. It was all about loving yourself. Now, before you go an have a date with yourself somewhere romantic, buy yourself flowers and think about how since you’ve become comfortable with yourself, you’ve really let yourself go, that isn’t the entire point. Oprah said at the beginning that there are two forces that exist – the first is the force of fear which can include actions of anger, self-doubt and jealousy. The second, of course is love which brings joy, contentment and acceptance.
Deepak’s take was a little deeper, of course – thanks to Dr. Oz for the introduction. The essence of his message, at least to me, was that loving yourself was the highest form of love and the one love that no one can take away from you. At the source, love is supposed to be unconditional and that starts with you. He said it much more eloquently – “When we tap into the flow of love we no longer seek to fill an inner void by seeking love from others. We instead align with the ever-present reservoir of love that lives within. We move from seeking love to living love.” (from chopracentermeditation.com). There is no denying that the man is brilliant.
In addition to loving oneself, he also recommends that you should treat yourself with the same respect as you would a guest in your home. How many times have you said to someone, “I’m having a fat day” or “I’m having a bad hair day” or basically just dissed yourself in some way? We are all guilty of not being kind to ourselves or holding ourselves to impossibly high standards that we may not ever be able to meet. I think as part of this experiment, I’m going to try to be mindful over the next week of not being self-deprecating. I think we all deserve a week where we are kind to ourselves.
In case you think that it’s all about memememememe, it’s not. In a article on oprah.com, http://www.oprah.com/oprahs-lifeclass/Deepak-Chopra-The-5-Step-Path-to-a-Life-of-Love?utm_source=daily&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=day-04, Mr. Chopra states “The world is my family. If love is universal, no one can be left out. To leave others out of your love is the same as inviting them to leave you out too.” It’s a lovely thought. I personally don’t judge people based on colour, creed, religion, emotional or physical limitations or sexual orientation. I just have no patience for haters. We live in such a sad time. Children who are bullied nowadays have no escape – even in the supposed safety of their homes. If you haven’t had the chance to watch the documentary “Bully” – you really should. It’s really heartbreaking watching kids try to fit in even as their are being abused by the people that they do want to befriend. Here is a link to the website to find out more http://www.thebullyproject.com. We bully as adults as well – how many people gossip about others? We are all guilty of it, but I’ve seen, firsthand, what happens when it gets out of hand. It’s not pretty seeing mature adults acting that way. All you need to do though, is look at what happens both around the world and even in our own backyard to see more examples of bullying. Places like the Ukraine, Uganda, Nigeria, Afganistan…and even North America – no matter how civilized the country, there are bullies.
Today, I am grateful for learning a long time ago, that people should be judged based on the content of their character (to quote Martin Luther King Jr.) not on anything else. I am grateful today to also learn, that is how I should judge myself.